A Liar And A Cheat and Why You Should Close Your Paypal Account

Fencing With Fulco Verdura - 12

This is a long, somewhat involved and ultimately negative blog-post but I think it contains information of interest to many makers who use the PayPal payments service.

Some of you who follow my blog or who pick up on it occasionally may remember that in May, I completed a pair of Verdura-inspired cuffs to a specific commission from a customer. I was extremely pleased with the result of the cuffs (above).

I should have trusted my instincts. From the word 'go', the customer bitched and haggled on price, always expecting me to change things at the last minute but I went along with it, buoyed by my general enthusiasm for the project, even sourcing some relatively inexpensive but impressive stones, such as the context-cut citrine in the centre of the bangle to the front. As you can probably guess from my tone and from the title of this post, things did not end well...

One of the things I like to do is to keep my clients posted on the progress of commissions, especially if they are distant commissions - this one went to Los Angeles - going back over my communications with the client, I see that we had nearly 30 emails discussing the project, which is considerably more than for most comissions. As ever, I provided drawings, notes and selections of stones in the form of an online journal which the client could access and comment upon. You can see the journal if you click on this image:

Fencing With Fulco Verdura - Album

As you can see from the above, I used a template generated from sizes supplied by the client for the wrist measurement. She even commented in one of the emails, "It's funny to see your ovals representing my wrists". I completed the bangles and sent them to her... and waited. Waited for about two weeks before I heard from her,

"The bracelets are beautiful, even more wonderful in person than in the photos. I absolutely love the stones, especially the yellow/orange/blue one. The finish, craftsmanship, artistry are everything I hoped for and more. Thank you!

"There is one big hitch, though - they are very big on me. I don't mean scale-wise, I am happy with the scale, but they are just way too large for my wrists. To have them fit snugly I have to push them halfway up my forearm and then they are still wider than my arm at that point.

"Please advise! I am guessing I will need to send them back to you for resizing. I went back and double checked the wrist measurements I sent you back on 1/14, and they are correct. I do have particularly skinny wrists."

In other words, I had made the bangles the correct size but she had measured her wrists wrongly. I agreed as an act of goodwill that I would re-size the bangles if she would send them back and gave explicit instructions on how to send them so that they would be exempt from import duty. She ignored these instructions and sent them by ordinary mail with no accompanying paperwork, attracting a fee of £80 at UK customs. When I pointed out to her that this was her fault, she agreed to pay it but suggested that I should pay half...

I re-sized the bangles and sent them back to her. By pure chance, one of my students looked over the bangles before they were sent, and I discussed with him the issues of resizing a piece like this. The bangles were also checked before packing by the wonderful Andrew at Mailboxes Etc. - whom I use to do all my shipping as they understand all the subtleties of customs and shipping - and so I know that they left me in pristine condition.

My client claims that they arrived damaged with one of the medallions detached from the bangle. I received no photograph of this damage. She refused to contact the shipping company. She claimed that I should take the whole lot back and refund her money. Needless to say, I declined.

This is where PayPal get involved. My client had paid PayPal with her credit card, three separate payments: a deposit, a balance and the charges for the customs disbursement. She claimed them all back from her credit card company who claimed these back from PayPal; PayPal immediately charged me for this without giving me any warning or explanation - I had to trawl through the website to work out what was going on.

I contacted PayPal and gave them the details of what had happened and they told me that they would send the details onto the credit card company and invited me to call with more details, which I did. I was told by the fellow on the phone that I wouldn't have to pay anything until the credit card company had dealt with the issue and that they would ensure that the bangles were returned to me before any money was paid back by me if it came to that.

Then they started to call me. Not once, but repeatedly. It seems that I had been given "incorrect information" and that I would be "continually called until payment is made" - in short, harrassed. I was told that I could not see the correspondence between PayPal and the credit card company and threatened with "a collection agency". They called me every day for about a week, until such times as the inevitable happened and the credit card company found in favour of the lying cheat who is also now in possession of two of my bangles. I am out of pocket to the tune of the materials and time.

Looking online, there are so many complaints about PayPal that it is a wonder that anyone signs up with them.

I have closed my PayPal account and, on the back of that, my Ebay account. For various reasons, Paypal being one of them, I have closed my Etsy account and am now on the lookout for a viable alternative for selling my work online. I am hoping to bring it all aboard a new website using a reputable bank-based payments system which is regulated by government bodies, as opposed to an unregulated company like PayPal.

If you ever see those bangles being worn, please take a moment to tell the wearer exactly what you think of them.

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Comment by The Justified Sinner on August 20, 2014 at 2:06am

Carolina, dress size is an interesting one! I hadn't thought on that. I am not put off at all and will continue to do international business. I don't get charged for receiving money but the buyer gets charged for sending it and on a $100 transaction, of which I have done more than a few, the charges would be about 25% of that, which makes it very expensive.

I don't like to specify that custom work is not returnable or refundable as customers often like - very reasonably - "tweaks" to work and I don't mind doing that. Mostly they are happy to pay for the shipping.

Linda, I do actually have a Ganoksin account but have not been on there for years! I will dig out the details and do that. Thank you.

Comment by Linda Kaye-Moses on August 19, 2014 at 7:51pm

Please send images of these bracelets to the ganoksin.com forum, Orchid Forum, so that jewelers around the world will know about this scam by the customer and the difficulties you have experienced with paypal.

Comment by Carolina Cole on August 19, 2014 at 7:17pm

So sorry to hear of your terrible experience.  Sounds like a very fickle customer and I know they're  out there lurking in the weeds.  Hopefully this experience won't deter you from doing business long distance.  Your work is beautiful and it would be a shame to let one terrible customer deter you.

I have found that dress size as a better indicator of wrist dimensions. Maybe next time ask for a wire transfer directly to your international bank, roll the transaction fees into the price of the item and specify that custom work is not returnable or refundable.

Comment by The Justified Sinner on August 19, 2014 at 2:50pm

Ginny, many thanks. I can assure you that the post was wholly cathartic and I am already onto my future projects! I am not one to dwell on setbacks and the words of encouragement I have received from so many people have put the whole thing in perspective for me. I've done my bit, done what I can and it is "Onwards!" for me.

Victoria, I am interested to hear that PayPal have found in your favour in similar circumstances: they do get a very bad rap online but there seemed to me to be no option at the time. In a sense, it is all my own fault for not selecting a more reliable method of payment. My very best customer does direct transfers to my bank for the work she buys from me and if there were to be any problems subsequent to that transaction, it would be an issue which would have to be sorted out wholly between ourselves.

As to lawyers, the main problem is that I am in the UK and sold under UK law, while she is in the US and bought under US law... where that leaves us, I do not know and I cannot really afford to lose any further money on speaking to a lawyer. Even an informal consulation would cost me about 1/6 of the money I have already lost. 

I don't want to embark on any big campaign of negativity. I know that my social networks are behind me on this one!

Comment by Victoria Lansford on August 19, 2014 at 2:26pm

How awful! I'm so sorry you went through all of that.

From my own experiences and from what I've read of the legal agreements of PayPal, Square, Shopify, and others, the gateways are often not the final arbiters of these issues. The credit card companies are. (If PayPal is the payment method, not simply the website payment gateway, then they behave like the Visa or Mastercard would.)

As long as credit card companies want to keep their customers happy (and they have a lot of competition to do so), we will all face these risks no matter what type of gateway we use to accept the cards. What happened to you could happen again with any of the gateway options, shopping carts, or ecommerce options. Ultimately, the credit card companies get to decide.

Although I've been fearful of PayPal's bad rep, they have decided in my favor both with me as a seller and a buyer. For the past 8 years I've had great experiences with them. I've given up on Square. Their card readers continually break, leaving me to key in credit card information in person at a significantly higher fee. Square has refused to refund the difference in manual and swiped entries even though their card readers are the problem.

I'm not a lawyer, but having navigated similar issues, presenting proof of your photos and emails with the client to the credit card company should have gotten them off your back. Beyond that a letter from a lawyer outlining the scenario and the proof you have should also have gotten them off your back. Most states have organizations for artists to receive free legal help in these types of matters. Companies will often back down when threatened with the cost of litigation.

Finally, shaming helps. You might put images of the cuffs with a watermark "Stolen" all over social media. If your network is big enough, at the very least it is possible to make the customer embarrassed to wear them.

Comment by Ginny Henley on August 19, 2014 at 2:10pm

Your bracelets are gorgeous and your talent is considerable. Thank you for posting about your experience. Your diligence and attention to your customer is impressive beyond fault. Hopefully your post is cathartic for you and what I am going to say, I say to bless you. Now you can let it go. Please do not let this devious person continue to rob you of your positive energy and even your artistic flow.  It isn't worth further damage to you is it?  I know, easier said than done.  PayPal is a business and they make decisions accordingly.  They will often side with the consumer.  Although you are also in business, you are an artist who operates through your gut, heart and soul. Different beings.  She stole from your business because she intended to do so from the start. Nothing short of defeating and/or harming someone else will please her; that's obvious. Evict her from your emotions for YOUR sake and future. The world needs you and the beauty that comes from your able hands.

Comment by The Justified Sinner on August 19, 2014 at 1:34pm

Square seems to work for most people and I see that there are now similar services in the UK. These do not, however, allow the seller to take "card not present" transactions, which I would need to do for overseas orders.

I was so completely unsupported by PayPal - who were only interested in making sure that they got their money - that I will not trade with anyone who does not offer me a different option. E-junkie does have other options but I can't see how that can protect you beyond what PayPal terms and conditions offer (precious little for the seller, I can assure you).

Thanks for your comments and support!

Comment by Ann Davis on August 19, 2014 at 1:10pm

Oh Dear!! What a horrible experience!! Hmmm I do take paypal on my website, but I have an

http://www.e-junkie.com/  shopping cart for years, but I'm thinking that doesn't protect me. I've never had a problem with either, and I have a Square -no problems...but geezzzz I guess I'll have to get smart on this. Thanks so much for posting. I'll be looking for those bracelets too!

Comment by The Justified Sinner on August 13, 2014 at 2:46am

Sophia, Etsy is a slightly different issue for me as they do have their own payments system (although their dispute resolution policies are laughable) and my main complaint is that my work doesn't fit in with the rest of the work on the site. I don't feel the site commands the respect I would like it to have. It was probably wrong of me to mention Etsy in the context above as I've been thinking about closing that account for some time now.

In terms of alternatives, I will not deal with any company which offers to support PayPal in any form. They have blown it completely as far as I am concerned. Since posting this, however, I have now had so many options offered to me, including your most recent suggestion of 11Main.com, of which I had never previously heard. I will be making a further post with a review of the suggestions (WorldPay, NoChex, Square, BigCartel, plus the option of creating an e-commerce website myself).

Comment by Sophia Georgiopoulou on August 12, 2014 at 8:27pm

So sorry you went through this, Dauvit. It seems inevitable that we will all experience a case like yours in the long run. I have been struggling with a similar case and I have been having negative thoughts about Etsy and the way they do business, although they found in my favor. I have relocated my website and my $500 and above pieces to Shopify (it is not necessary that you use the PayPal option) and I have tentatively listed some items on a new platform called 11Main.com, recommended by some IT friends. 

Will keep a look out for those magnificent bracelets.

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